Welcome back to our SEL spotlight series! It's our Friday Feature, where we're going to feature something cool on you guessed it, Fridays!
The purpose of this is series is to create a strong foundation of understanding. We're banking on the fact that the more you know about SEL, the more engaged you'll be in strengthening your and/or your child's social-emotional skills. While we know that knowing and doing are very different things, knowing is half the battle (here's lookin' at you, Gen X'ers).
Hopefully, you remember that SEL is comprised of 5 five core competencies (no big deal if you didn't...that's what we're here for). Today, we'll be exploring one of the five core competencies, self-management.
Self-management vibes off of self-awareness and can take things into beautiful directions. Simply, self-management takes awareness of ourselves (emotions and thoughts) and then uses this information to regulate our behavior in different situations.
Here's an example of how self-management could look IRL. Let's say that "your friend" has a hard time keeping her cool at her in-laws, but can stay completely composed as her usual fun-loving self when she's hanging with her BFFs. Understanding how I, oh um, I mean how she feels and what her thoughts are in these different scenarios can provide some important insights. These insights could help her manage her emotions, control her impulses (please, oh please, just stop talking), and thus behave in a way that will avert the need for future apologies.
Like we said earlier, knowing your emotions and thoughts are only a part of the equation when managing yourself. We also need different skills or tools to use in different situations. For example, when feeling upset, agitated, or uncomfortable, having an established repertoire of coping skills can come in handy. OR, what if you're feeling unmotivated? What can you do to amp yourself up? Maybe it's list-making, or SMART goal writing, or visualizing success. The bottom line is that self-management allows us to respond, not react, to our emotions and thoughts in a way that is healthy and productive. Nice.